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Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Questions???

Questions???

Have you ever wondered why sometimes people ask you a question that is most irrelevant? I’m not talking of a rhetoric one here, I’m being polite and not saying they are the most stupid and dumb questions but in all honesty they are stupid with a capital “S”. A few days back a friend sent me some real classic dumb questions. Here are a few examples:

Ø  When you get woken up at midnight by a phone call...
Stupid Question:-

Sorry. Were you sleeping? 
Answer:-

No. I was doing research on whether the Zulu tribes in Africa marry or not. You thought I was sleeping.... you dumb witted moron. 

Ø  When you see a friend/colleague with evidently shorter hair...
Stupid Question:-

Hey have you had a haircut? 
Answer:-

No, it’s autumn and I'm shedding

Ø  You are smoking a cigarette and a cute woman asks...
Stupid Question:-

Oh, so you smoke. 
Answer: - 

Gosh, it's a miracle .......it was a piece of chalk and now it's in flames!!! 

Ø  At the movies: When you meet acquaintances/ friends…
Stupid Question:-

Hey, what are you doing here? 
Answer:-

Don’t you know, I sell tickets in black over here?

Ø  In the bus: A heavy lady wearing pointed high-heeled shoes steps on your feet...
Stupid Question:- 

Sorry, did that hurt?
Answer:-

No, not at all, I'm on local anesthesia.....why don't you try again?

I think most times people ask you a question just for the heck of it! Maybe to keep a conversation going, or at times a question is asked just out of sheer habit. You may be down in the dumps and someone asks you “How are you?”….”Hello! Are you a moron? Can’t you see I’m dying here?”

However, in a lover’s world everything is permissible. “Do you miss me?”, “Do you love me?”, “How much do you love me?” and you are sure to get an answer back from the heart! “I love you baby”, “I miss you all the time”, “You have no idea how much I love you”. A conversation like this can be repeated at least three times in a span of a day and it is considered normal and not dumb! Every time you hear your lover reaffirming how much he or she loves you and misses you, you are literally swooning. But for a bystander it can be pretty exasperating…”What’s wrong with these people? Didn’t she just hear him say “I love you” so why the hell is she asking the same question? And why on earth is he answering her again? They love each other, so they are together! They miss one another, so they spend as much time together! So what’s their problem?” …..”Excuse me! You haven’t yet fallen in love! Just you wait and watch when love tiptoes into your heart!”

Then you have the after breakup questions. He calls you and asks you “How have you been?” and you answer in your sweetest confident voice “I am doing good”. Pride, hurt and pain hold you back. You are not about to open up your heart to him. You had done that, laid bare your soul and look where it got you? So you pretend everything is picture perfect. You are having a ball! So what if he is not in your life? You are not about to tell him that even counting sheep at night can’t get you to sleep, that you sob every night, missing him and wanting him back. As for him, does he ask you because he needs to ask or is he genuinely concerned about you? I wonder…In all probability he holds on to his breath when he asks you how you have been and lets out a sigh of relief when you say you are ok. He doesn’t want to go in there so he moves onto more polite questions and she lets him. It is only after he hangs up you think of the choicest of retorts but it is too late.

Questions! They can really put you into a dilemma at times. You are at a loss for answers so you are polite and give the person exactly what he or she wants to hear or at times you are plain rude and shut the person up. We are all questioning and seeking answers about our life and the universe but that is for another day to contemplate about. Today it is all about questions that make you wonder….

46 comments:

  1. LOL, depending on the day I might very well answer a question sarcastically. As my mom likes to say..."Stupid breeds."
    I use to tell people I am fine when it was apparent I was not fine because I didn't want to put my problems on to them. Then I realized it's better to just tell them why I am upset, they are my friends and are asking me because they are concerned, right? And if they don't like my answer well then they just won't ask me what's wrong again.
    I guess we do these things to protect people but, who's protecting us?
    I loved this post.

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  2. Quite a different post from you, Rimly and just as good as the rest... It's amazing how the kind of questions we ask, the kind of answers we give and the questions we are asked in turn can indicate the state of our relationship. People can go from 'Don't you know I love you?' to 'Why do you keep asking me that?' in response to our 'Do you really love me?' Food for thought this post of yours....

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  3. Rimly, loved both the questions and the comment by our dear friend, Jenni. Why do we try to protect the ones we love? maybe because if they hurt, we do worse. Lovely post once again...

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  4. I love the stupid questions, they brighten up my day. I don't think there's a day that goes by when I don't hear one.

    The one I heard this morning was in the supermarket, I had already asked for a bag but the response came back "Do you need a bag?" considering I had a whole trolley of shopping and nothing on me I was tempted to say "No I'll just balance all this on my head and come back later for what I can't manage" :)

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  5. So what are you saying? hehe
    I'm fine are you?

    A

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  6. There are quwestions that should never be asked when you have eyes to see what the reality is.

    Lovely and funny post
    Thanks Rimly

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  7. Yeah, I was being asked a hundred of times by my ex how much I love her.. She simply annoyed me.


    Cheers :)
    Weakest Link: Personal
    News Not Making News: Dream

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  8. Great one Rimly...I can say one thing for sure,"some" men can be the most insensitive people in the world,or it's probably because they have nothing good to say about themselves,or you..blame it on their sex.Just follow this... I'm not even going to try and get mad anymore. I just have to learn to expect the lowest from the people I thought the highest of...Keep smiling sweetheart..I just want you to be happy..ALWAYS.

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  9. I loved loved this post -- I can relate especially to the "are you sleeping" question, which yes I sometimes ask my husband --- uh, how do you answer that one?

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  10. There are actually times that I could really be patient when someone asks me such questions (I think it depends largely on my state of mind). I'd rather go into humor than sarcasm especially that I always have the children around.

    There were moments when my ex would YM me and ask me how I were. To appease him I'll just mirror his greeting back to him...

    Yes, even the simple how are you could give me a dilemma... It entails a lot of sincerity...

    but then again... who cares to really listen?

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  11. Gave me quite a few chuckles and smiles as what you said is so true. Humans ask the dumbest questions even when the answer is known but those questions in love are priceless and can be asked repeatedly. Everyone wants to be asked "Do you love me?" so that opens the floodgate of heartfelt emotions. As far as bystanders that are listening in....Mine your own damm business!!! :)

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  12. I have to admit, i have had my share of asking stupid questions. questions are important but most of us dont know how to use them.

    here's latest sista: my take on a different kind of seduction-http://sukanyabora.wordpress.com/2011/07/19/seduction/

    rimjhim

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  13. absorbed in unanswered thoughts, we cling on to a string of hope, hope to unearth the reasons behind an accomplished soul. in this process we try to mold ourselves to the desires of our beloved, suppressing our own quest of truth. still the quest remains, we remain, we remember, try to forget the unanswered trails behind but can we ever ?

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  14. This was different and you had me laughing or should I say smirking away as you DID hit the nail on the head with these questions!

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  15. Great, sounds like a few situations I've been in. Sometimes it's hard to know whether they are sincere. Keep sharing, stop by and add your blog on our page, we appreciate your support.

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  16. This was so different and so much fun to read I pictured you smiling and laughing the whole time lol
    Is the post over now?

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  17. Rimly, I too laughed at the questions and the answers you gave in this post...brilliant.

    We are creatures of habit. We live...wanting to be re-assured that we are loved, not wanting to offend..and most of all on auto pilot. And sometimes, people have fear of the Silence...and just say anything to be heard..

    Some people are just private..and do not want to share their problems with others..

    And where relationships are concerned and "Love"...that is the most fragile of states for all who are in or leaving a relationship. You are so right about all the questions you listed in this paragraph.

    For me...it all comes back to "Truth" and honouring, in the moment where you are. I have caught myself doing the cliche answer to those "Stupid Questions" and I have mnade a course correction and "Called a Spade a Spade"...then you watch the discomfort veil come over the eyes of those that can not handle your honesty. They can not change the subject fast enough....or vacate your presence. But for me that is ok...

    I try to come from my own truth and those that love and care will interface in the answer..and together...we share a conversation.

    I agree with Jen...if it is too hard for anyone to hear the truth when they put the question forward..."Don't ask the Question"

    I am comfortable within my honesty and my own skin..if others find that difficult, I do not take it on..I know it is their "Stuff"...that my friend is Freedom. If you can...always walk within your own Discernment...it will never let you down.

    Love this post Rimly...very insightful and full of common sense wisdom...Always...

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  18. the dumbest question i have ever heard is "how do you feel?" after someone has just been taken apart by some disaster of life. anybody with the scents to pour water out of a boot with the instruction on the heel, knows the answer. my answer to the person asking is " does your face hurt?", if the answer is no, when give me a minute and i will fix that. now how does that feel? lol
    good post rimly thank you and god bless

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  19. Jenni I agree with you. If they are friends they will accept an honest answer from you if not then they really dont know you. Thank you for commenting.

    Corrine true. We would never ask a dumb question to a friend nor would that friend. But with someone we dont know very well we could land up asking or being asked something totally irrelevant just to keep a conversation going. Thank you Corrine for commenting

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  20. Sulekha you are right we do and say a lot of things trying to protect people we care for, in the process we are not true to ourselves. Thank you my Outlier for reading this and commenting.

    SJ I laughed reading about your stupid question moment at the super market. I guess if you see the humor in such questions you can have a good laugh later on but sometimes they can get on your nerves. Thank you for reading and commenting

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  21. A how are you? :))) Thank you


    Bolognostics people are sometimes just daft that is why they end up doing stupid things. Thank you for commenting

    Rachit if she had been asking this when you were still together then you should always indulge her. In love it is not considered dumb! In love it just wanting to hear it again and again that you love her makes it all the more romantic. Thank you for commenting

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  22. Alpana thank you. I can understand what you are trying to say. But it is not necessary that only men ask stupid questions, it can be a woman too.


    Melissa I so agree with you. Most times people who ask such questions are doing so without really listening. They do just for the sake of asking. Thank you soul sis for commenting


    David yes, mind your own business when it comes to love! :))) Thank you so much for commenting

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  23. Rimly, did you write this? Are you expecting me to comment? Are you a blogger? Do you like writing? - LOL - I know just what you are talking about. Sometimes these STUPID questions can drive us up the walls; sometimes one is just avoiding confrontation with a questions he/she does not want to answer; sometimes it just takes one question to show you the way... Loved your post as always.

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  24. Sukanya you bet we all have had our share of stupid questions. Hopping across now to take a look at your new post.


    Sancheeta my poetess, love your comments. Thank you

    Savira I thoroughly enjoyed writing this post, sometimes laughing, sometimes smirking!!!Thank you

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  25. Marie thank you for dropping by and commenting. Following you now.

    Jim I knew you would like this. So different from what I write. Yes I was laughing writing this. Thank you so much

    Leeann I agree with you. There is nothing as liberating as being true to yourself. I loved your comment as always.

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  26. Roy you had me laughing reading your comment. Loved it. Thank you and god bless you too

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  27. Kriti first of all don't ask dumb questions!!!! Ha,ha,ha!!!! You are right we do tend to keep asking the most irrelevant questions to stall and hope in our hearts that the confrontation that is impending gets pushed to another time. Thank you goddess for your comment.

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  28. A funny post Rimly - totally different than your regular ones.
    Listen to this,once while i was working a customer asked me where i was from and when i said Nepal,she says oh the Mount Everest,right? And then she goes, have you climbed the Everest? So i candidly replied " yes i used to take my dog for a walk every morning. I miss doing that now". She bought that!!!!

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  29. That was a laugh Eva!! People can be so dumb and ignorant! Honestly! Thank you for this funny tit bit.

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  30. Hi Alfred Lives here would love to know what your husband's answer is to your question. :))) Thank you for commenting

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  31. Love can make us stupid too but then it is a matter of blindness.If a person is passionate in love he can´t control everything and that merely creates some freedom instead.

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  32. So true Mattias. A person passionately in love will never get bored of hearing I Love you or answering his lover. Thank you for commenting

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  33. You really keep coming out with surprises. Where do your talents stop. Questions can be empowering, but equally they can be disempowering. I'm happy if my lady says 'Darling do you love me'. I'm happy to answer, to reassure her of my undying love. But there are those questions that i'd just rather she wouldn't ask.
    What are you thinking?"
    Do I look fat in this?
    Do you think she is prettier than I am?
    She's got a great body, hasn't she?
    I could go on .... but i won't.

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  34. Thank you Larry. Men like you are precious who are sensitive towards their woman but one advice, do indulge your wife with positive retorts when she asks the "those" questions. :)))

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  35. At first you made me laugh and then you made me think for a while.I must say the best post I read in a while.Would like to see you write more often for We have a Story.

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  36. I love this: "It is only after he hangs up you think of the choicest of retorts but it is too late." This is so me! No matter what the circumstance, I can never come up with a witty, sly, cutting remark when I need one. It's frustrating! Maybe I should write a bunch down for various occasions and keep them in my pocket lol.

    Great post,

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  37. quite interesting post....

    but personally i always liked SOMEONE asking ..."How much do you love me...???" it does sound little monotonous but it has got its own "taste n flavor"....:))

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  38. Thank you Abhisek. Its a pleasure to see you here and commenting.

    Hi Mari I think we should do just that...write a list of retorts for different occasions. Thank you

    Me too Irfan, I never tire of those "love" questions. Thank you for commetning

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  39. Rimly -- I love that you are trying something NEW with this post, or at least fresh approach to your favorite theme. Great post!

    My boyfriend doesn't like to play the question game -- haha! He believes I should know he loves me based on his actions. And it's true -- I do.

    Every once in a while I break down and blurt out something like, "Did you miss me?" and he scolds, "Of course, I missed you. What do you think???"

    I'm only human after all ... ;-)

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  40. LOL. Uhm, I've been anoyed multiple times recently with that "How are you?" question. Ugh. Not good.

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  41. Hahahahah !! YOu are awesome Rimly !!! Super cool !! Ayon

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  42. Thank you Linda. Yes I tried something different this time. Glad you liked it. I agree with you every once in awhile you want to hear to your loved say they love and miss us, even if you know they do

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  43. Rachel thank you for reading and commenting.

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  44. Ayon, finally! Good to see you here. Thank you so much. I am glad you liked it

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  45. I think as I've gotten older "grumpier" I have become more sarcastic when it comes to the "stupid questions"

    I know all to well about giving someone the answer they want and when I am about to do that I ask them "beautiful lie or painful truth?" most of my friends/family know when I say this that they are asking a question they already know the answer too.

    Great post love the conversation between the lovers... Been there done that...

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  46. Thank you Debbie. We have all done that at some point in our life.We still do sometimes, meaning to say the truth but ending up saying something else.

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